Solutions for Sibling Fighting

Sibling Rivalry The website, ‘Go Nannies,’ is sharing some interesting material about Solutions for Sibling Fighting. Avoiding and stopping the kids fighting endlessly definitely causes parents stress. This piece is posted by ‘admin,’ so I cannot see anyone taking credit for this information. This seems to be a newer blog’ just so you know. I also could not find ownership or location. This seems to be a trend.

However, usable information is still usable information. Read the excerpt below, and go to the original source for the full story.

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Solutions for Sibling Fighting

“How to Stop Siblings From Fighting”

“Sibling fighting, while inevitable, can turn your household into what feels like a war zone. Your children bickering, teasing, poking, and all around annoying each other can seem like an endless stress cycle. There are, however, some ways that you can lessen sibling fighting and create a more peaceful, cooperative environment.”

Set strong, clear boundaries for acceptable behavior and stick to them. Sibling fighting is …”

Teach your children problem solving skills. Giving your kids the tools they need to solve their …”

Help your children understand the different perspectives of their siblings. Children think everyone …”

Don’t take sides. Finding ways to solve the problem, not assigning blame, is …”

Focus on what you want them to do instead of what you don’t want them to do. It’s easy to talk about what you don’t …”

“Sibling fighting is typical and can’t be avoided completely. However you can get to a place where your children get along more often than they fight, and where they truly enjoy being around each other.”

We can only hope. Beware of what happens behind your backs.

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I have a story about my lack of knowledge about Solutions for Sibling Fighting. I discovered that there were sibling fights that occurred between my daughter and my son. My daughter is 3 ½ years older. So, most of the ‘fighting’ started with her. When my son was 16, I walked into the dining room to find him dragging his sister across the floor. He looked at me and said… “She been dragging me and putting my head in the toilet for years; it is time for payback.” Well, coming out of my shock, in the next 3 feet of floor, I stopped him. A talk and lecture followed. To this day, I do not know if all that actually stopped when I was not there; it stopped when I was home though. I still can’t believe that this was going on between them.

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Raising the Children to Resist Cyberbullying Facts

Author, Shane Paul Neil, has spoken eloquently in this piece about Raising the Children to Resist Cyberbullying Facts.I most definitely agree with his premise. I’m not sure just how to go about effecting this change into our society. Something is sickeningly wrong, when adults refuse to see this happening, and when teens treat their own so cruelly. Read the excerpt below, and then go to the source for the full impact of Mr. Neil’s story.

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Raising the Children to Resist Cyberbullying Facts

Raising the Children to Resist Cyberbullying Facts

“We Need To Raise Resilient

Children”

“As a child I was bullied mercilessly at the small Catholic school I attended and fought almost daily. I won a few and lost a lot. I would get migraines from the stress of having to face another day of torture. The nuns at the school couldn’t fathom that so many of the boys in my class would want to torment me on such a regular basis and therefore assumed that it had to be my provocation that led to so many beatings.”

“I learned to fight back — sometimes physically, sometimes with words, and occasionally with pranks. Do I advocate violence among children? No — no more than I advocate violence anywhere. I do advocate wit and resiliency. I advocate teaching a generation of vulnerable children what it means to stand up for themselves. When the idea of facing an online bully one more time is less inviting to a child than ending their young lives, what does that say about the world we have created?”

“We have a generation of fragile children in an un-fragile world.”

“Let’s teach our children that for every loss there is a new game to play. That sometimes the only one who can save them is themselves. If you want to save our children, let them fall early and show them how to stand back up proudly.”

This is the Link to the original source material

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Mr. Neil has used powerful words to give us inspiration for Raising the Children to Resist Cyberbullying Facts.

Raising the Children to Resist Cyberbullying Facts

What are our American society, communities, families, parents, and adults doing to permit such self-destructive responses to bullies? Get inspiration for resisting and eliminating cyberbullies and all bullies. View a video identifying ‘Cyberbullying Victims’ by clicking this Link.

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Emotions of Parents Affect Discipline Decisions

Introduction

How do you feel today? Are you aware that the Emotions of Parents Affect Discipline Decisions? Discipline is teaching and training for various objectives, such as, child safety, or instilling values.

Emotions of Parents Affect Discipline Decisions

As discipline for children in never punishment, understanding how your emotions affect the parenting decisions you make and the actions you take becomes critical. Frequently, we humans behave at home in ways we would never act in public, at work, in training, or with extended family. This type of relaxing of societal behavior norms creates an atmosphere of… ‘Do as I say, and not as I do.’ Children learn by example far more readily than following verbal directives. Be the person unto which you want your child to develop.

Preface

One of my parenting goals was to give my children both roots and wings. Roots are the establishment of safety and love in the family home, and wings are to encourage excitement for learning through middle childhood and adolescence to early adulthood. You get roots with limits, boundaries, and parenting by example. You get wings from loving, listening, and respecting.

In this paper, you will find six tips for understanding how the Emotions of Emotions of Parents Affect Discipline DecisionsParents Affect Discipline Decisions and outcomes of actions. I have grouped these hints and tips into loose groupings. There is still some overlap in these concepts.

So here we go…

Emotions of Parents Affect Discipline Decisions

  • Intense Emotions and Reactions
    • Never discipline children when you are angry, or because you are angry. This includes frustration, worry, stress, and exhaustion. Learn to manage your stress, which includes teaching these skills to your children to help them learn to self-regulate more intense emotions.
  • Expectations
    • Do not expect your children to obey when it is most critical for them to behave. Plan ahead. What you might think of as ‘cute’ at the age of 5 will not be so ‘cute,’ when your child is 8. Focusing on teaching or training rather than ‘discipline,’ or ‘punishment’ will help you to set your perspectives on taking actions before a misbehavior, rather than reacting to a misbehavior afterwards. Teaching, training, and parenting by example by explaining and demonstrating how to perform an action, such as ‘chores’

PS: Using the word, ‘chore,’ can detonate arguments. Choose the term that best suits your family. For a household to run smoothly, everyone has to pull their weight, so to speak, as is age appropriate. In other words, one or two people (parents) cannot possibly handle adequately all the tasks needed to keep a household running smoothly. To attempt to do so only increases stress, frustration, anger, and exhaustion. A good offense is immensely more effective than the best defensive strategies (sports analogy).Emotions of Parents Affect Discipline Decisions

  • The Innate Desire to Please
    • Young children naturally want to please parents, use this to your advantage. This is strategy. They do not have any skills to do that, so they watch and imitate, or your could plan, teach, and train. Focus on parenting by example. You are your kids first and foremost role model. As parents, act the way you want your children to act. Show them how a good person behaves; your kids will follow, and you will be setting a foundation of cooperation. This decreases the need for teaching and training, and explaining and describing.
  • Peace and Harmony
    • Steady at the helm Levelheadedness, calm, and patience aid you in remaining consistent.
  • Routine and Consistency
    • Keep your word. This is all part of ‘steady’ wins the race, as in the tortoise and the hare story. If you use a system of rules, consequences, rewards and privileges continue that pattern. Avoid succumbing to the pleadings of the kids. It is your child’s developmental task to plead for his ‘wants’ and ‘desires.’ You can avoid emotional reactions and decisions on your part by using the system you have set in place. If you do not have a system, maybe you should create one. If you have planned in advance of misbehavior, you will be less likely to over react form stress or pressure. Then inconsistency becomes a non–issue. Clearly defined limits and boundaries are a substantial foundation for your child’s development. These will support you in focusing of the behavior and not your immediate mood. Follow through on what you teach them. Don’t threaten a consequence on which you will not follow through.
  • Patience is a Virtue
    • Your patience will be tested. Mastering patience, as part of your personal plan for minimizing stress and being reactive, is one of the most important parenting skills you can master. Patience will be a basis for your achieving the parenting goals you have set for your family. With patience, you will enjoy even teaching your children the skills that they will require to be successful adults in life. You will also be more effective in achieving your goals.

Conclusion

Emotions of Parents Affect Discipline DecisionsAs I always say, life is full of challenges. How the Emotions of Parents Affect Discipline Decisions is going to be up to you. Are you stepping up to hit a home-run in parenting? It is the most important challenge you will ever face. Please do not minimize your value as a parent. You are raising the next generation. There have been times that we parents have all experienced the frustrating behaviors of our children. Do not let this frustration cause you to lose sight of your personal goals for your family. As parents, we forget most of what we know is effective during the instance a child misbehaves. Create your own plan to make effective Discipline Decisions.

Epilogue

One of my parenting goals was to give my children both roots and wings. You get roots with limits, boundaries, and parenting by example. You get wings from listening and respecting.

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Plan Your Parenting Solutions

The only way to Solve Parenting Problems is to stay calm and Plan Your Parenting Solutions out…
You are the adult… You can choose how to react… You are in charge, Really!

It is guaranteed, you will be tested! Expect it!
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Plan Your Parenting Solutions

Don’t be like the ‘red faced’ guy in the video! That’s not a solution. Anger, heated facial expressions will only serve to make any situation worse.

Use this video to have a laugh and an inspiration. Use anything that works.

Breathe…
That’s Better! Calm!

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Learn Patience for Raising Children Well

Lisa Larson is telling us that to Learn Patience for Raising Children Well, we best learn it through experience. Lisa Larson shares a personal experience with parenting her small daughter in The Spectrum, a Gannett Company publication online out of St. George, Utah. She tells us that there is learning involved in raising small children, even though, it is not the traditional academic setting. Read the excerpt and go to the source. She talks about her husband’s experience with learning patience as well.

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Learn Patience for Raising Children Well

Learn Patience for Raising Children Well

“Flexibility one lesson of raising children”

“Often mothers – particularly those who stay home full time with their children – talk about the fact that it is difficult to feel like their mind is being challenged, like they’re not still learning.”

“… I feel like I’m constantly learning things during the time I spend with my daughter, Lydia.”

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“One such lesson came a few weeks ago when …”  “I’m talking about the airplane bathrooms.”  “… the cramped, crowded experience of an airplane bathroom takes on new meaning when you try to fit not one, but two people inside.”

“… I didn’t dare just send her into this unique toilet setting alone …”  “It was absolutely laughable; a true test of acrobatics, flexibility and patience.”

Now that the scene is set, how do you think this turned out?

“… if the mood doesn’t strike her right, stubborn doesn’t begin to describe her …”

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All parents can benefit from the process to Learn Patience for Raising Children Well. It would be a miracle, if we all did as this mother is reporting. I like to think that Ms. Larson was as lighthearted as she sounds in her post while she was in that “teeny tiny” airplane bathroom sweating and struggling with a very small child. If not, then I hope she was at least tolerant and became patient upon leaving that bathroom. She is indeed correct that parenting is a learning experience for both parent and child.

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Your Successful Parenting Solutions

If you have bee experiencing difficulties with childrens problem behaviors, then what you need is inspiration and confidence to discover new parenting skills and create Your Successful Parenting Solutions.

It can get better… It will get better! Use patience, persistence, and determination. Below the video you will find a Link to a webpage giving y ou ideas on how best to use Patience, Persistence, and Determination.

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Family Times are (or at least can be) Great Times. Kids are Cute… they don’t always act ‘cute.’ There will be crying! Infants and Toddlers can be So tiny… So young… Patience is #1

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Two Parenting Strategies

There are Two Parenting Strategies newly posted on this website. I have included a brief excerpt from each below and also a Link. Keep exploring your options, and keep reading.

Two Parenting Strategies…

include the topics ‘Parenting Coach,’ and ‘Discipline Ideas.’ These are intended to help you become your own Parenting Coach.

New Parenting Article Pages

“It’s true; “You Can be Your Own Parenting Coach.” A parenting coach is someone who is your personal ‘cheerleader.’ This coach can take your parenting goals, your children’s unwanted behaviors and help you develop or improve your parenting skills. In addition, help you create your parenting goals. If you are having some difficulty eliminating or reducing some unwanted behaviors, getting the assistance of a parenting coach could indeed be helpful. However, you may want to try out being your own parenting coach first. If that is the route you want to take, then here are some pointers that can help you get started so…”

“You Can be Your Own Parenting Coach

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New Parenting Article PagesIf you are a parent and are interested in  improvement, here are “Effective Discipline for Children: 8 Tips, Tricks and Techniques.” Discipline is important regardless of the age of the child. It is a major part of how we teach our children behavioral lessons. We are teaching our children skills and values that they need to function in their lives.

Click the link below to find out more about the Amazon Kindle Book, “Effective Discipline for Children: 8 Tips, Tricks and Techniques.”

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In these Two Parenting Strategies, you will find a continuing theme. That is, you can achieve your family and parenting goals. It your decision, and your responsibility to  discovery what will work for your family, acting in an responsible adult manner.

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American Kids Spoiled Rotten?

Answer this question… When Parenting Young Children Are American Kids Spoiled Rotten? Well?

The Huffington Post has an extensive piece by Lisa Belkin, a Senior Columnist for the ‘Like / Work / Family’ sections. The piece explores the work of Elizabeth Kolbert, UCLA anthropologist Carolina Izquierdo, and others, including the work of the famous ‘Tiger Mom.’ I was intrigued; I think you will be, too. Read the excerpt and find out the particulars of this piece.

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Parenting Young Children Are American Kids Spoiled Rotten?

“The Benefits Of Spoiling Kids In America”
“For the sake of argument, let’s explore the possibility that spoiling our children — creating “brats” who are very comfortable being waited and doted upon — is good for them.”
“What in other species is instinctive …” “…in humans is subject to timing, and research, and trends.”
“But if most, or even more, of human parenting were instinctive, then the way we parent wouldn’t vary by era (think Spartans leaving weak babies on the hillside to die) or by culture (Japanese families stressing conformity, Americans stressing individuality) and there certainly wouldn’t be a subcategory of publishing about how parents in other countries (ie China, France) are doing this better than you.”
“In this week’s New Yorker, Elizabeth Kolbert concludes …”
“”With the exception of the imperial offspring of the Ming dynasty and the dauphins of pre-revolutionary France,” she writes, “contemporary American kids may represent the most indulged young people in the history of the world.””
“In the LA subject group, Kolbert summarizes, “no child routinely performed household chores without being instructed to. Often, the kids had to be begged to attempt the simplest tasks; often, they still refused.”
“Today’s child-centric parenting has consequences, but so did the latch-key …”
“… was published last year, many a young adult raised by such parents stepped …”

 Lisa Belkin – Huffington Post is the source

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Parenting Young Children Are American Kids Spoiled Rotten? I would have to agree that they are. I know that goes against many American parents’ views. I have seen the results of indulgence in the teenage years. This is a time when the ‘chickens come home to roost’ (spoken with tongue in cheek). I have seen the very behavior that parents complain about most turn out to be the ones that they taught and trained their youngsters.
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Discipline Young Children

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“How to Effectively Discipline Young Children”                        (http://parenting101success.com/how-to-effectively-discipline-young-children/)

When Parenting Children Patience Is the Key to Success Story

“Temper Tantrums and How to Stop Them”                        (http://parenting101success.com/temper-tantrums-and-how-to-stop-them/)

“How to Stop Temper Tantrums in Toddlers”                        (http://parenting101success.com/how-to-stop-temper-tantrums-in-toddlers/)

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To Discipline Young Children

Below you will find an excerpt from another of my informational webpages from this website to further assist you To Discipline Young Children.

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“How Do You Discipline Your Child?
“How do you discipline your child? How do you manage Childrens Behavior Problems? Do you keep in mind that children are naturally inquisitive? They just have to know what is going on… and why it is happening. As children mature, their curiosity matures as well. They begin to desire to know your knowledge. They are beginning to start forming ideas based in thought, emotions, and connections, their connections to you. Whereas when children are young, their desires are more self-centered.”

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“How Do You Discipline Your Child?”                                            (http://parenting101success.com/how-do-you-discipline-your-child/)

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