Helicopter Parenting Young Children 4-9

Helicopter Parenting Young Children 4-9 covers a lot of ground. I do believe that 4 year olds can be more actively in trouble the terrible two’s. Four years olds require watching, nine year olds not so much. The concept of multitasking is not a new phenomenon for women. Mothers tend to be hyper-vigilant. This piece about the interaction between a helicoptering mom and her daughter was written by Meghan Cox Gurdon and appears in The Examiner from Washington DC.

Meghan Cox Gurdon is a former foreign correspondent. She contributes to the ‘books pages’ of the Wall Street Journal.

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Helicopter Parenting Young Children 4-9

Helicopter Parenting Young Children 4-9“Even a helicopter parent sometimes misses a landing”

“Helicopter parents may be taking all kinds of risks in their long-term relationships with their children, but there’s one thing about which they can surely feel confident. At no point in the future can their sons and daughters turn around and claim, “You weren’t there for me!””

“One man’s active fathering is another’s man’s idea of child suffocation. What one mother calls smotherly love, another thinks of simply as “hands-on parenting.” And children, especially small ones, tend to adore masses of attention and so probably …”

“… an observer might have noticed that there seemed to be an invisible harness connecting this particular mother and child.”

“… gimlet eye of a weaponized drone! “

“… clicking a button on her iPhone to stop recording video. She turned quickly to sign a card for one of the teachers. At that moment, as fate would have it, the darling child jumped through her last Hula-Hoop and looked up at her No. 1 fan.”

“”Mommy!” the child cried in half-accusing, half-bewildered tones. Her arms dropped to her sides, as if the life had gone out of them.”

The source is Meghan Cox Gurdon of the Washington Examiner online.

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I think this columnist is trying to portray Helicopter Parenting Young Children 4-9 with this parent as having created a ‘co–dependent,’ and perhaps an utterly dependent child that is now and will be in the future unable to function successfully as an individual person. If I am correct, then the assumption of the columnist tends to be exaggerated.

It appears that I need to add more information to this website on the phenomenon of helicopter parenting.

Your thoughts on how helicopter parenting will effect the parent child relationship?

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Charity Raising Children Right

(UPDATED: June 2, 2012 Text added; Photos and graphics added) Yesterday was just a brief introduction into this heartwarming and inspiring story of Angelica Dowiak. I trust that she will grow into a wonderful adult and expand on her caring ways.

The Toledo Blade Company online website in good ol’ Toledo, Ohio has run a wonderful piece by Roberta Redfern concerning Charity Raising Children Right. Ms. Redfern did a spectacular job of highlighting young 9 year old Angelica Dowiak and her successful efforts to collect money a penny at a time for a charitable cause.

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Her idea went all the way to advertising with artwork, a jar filled with pennies. What a spectacular job!

Read this piece and go to the original source for the whole story.

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Charity Raising Children Right

Charity Raising Children Right Now“Toledo girl takes a shine to helping families in need”

““Angelica Dowiak had an idea.”

“The 9-year-old’s fund-raising plan — sketched on a sheet of paper with a red marker and complete with an illustration of a penny-filled jar …”

“Her target for the money was children in need at Beach House Family Shelter on Erie Street.”

“For five days, the precocious, blond-haired, blue-eyed child solicited pennies from those around her: neighbors, friends, family members, someone walking by on the sidewalk. People pulled pennies from their pockets, from the depths of their couch cushions, and from the crevices of their car consoles.”

“”People don’t really give up their other money, so if they just give up one cent, pretty soon you come up with a dollar,” the little girl explained.”

“”Never did I imagine she would get this much money,” said Laura Golbinec, intervention specialist at Imagine Madison Avenue School of Arts on Madison Avenue, which the girl attends as a third grader. “I was amazed.””

The source is the Toledo Blade

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This child, this wonderful child can be an inspiration to other children, students, parents, teachers, and all other adults. Just look at her bright face in the photo on the source webpage. You can’t help but smile, and get motivated. Parents, please open up your children to Charity Raising Children Right can be confusing, but charity helps everyone, the giver and the receiver.

A few decades ago, I was out shopping and I came across a car wash right in the center of a strip mall parking lot. It was run for charity by the teens from a local high school. Some teens, both male and female (They don’t like to be called boys and girls anymore.), were in swimsuits soaping down cars in a row. Some teens were hosing off the suds. Some teens were toweling off the cars. Some teens were collecting money. Some teens were near the street with big handheld signs advertising the charity car wash, calling out to the motorists through the open windows in the passing vehicles. Everyone was smiling. It brings such joy to everyone involved in work that benefits others. I remember actually tearing up at the sight.

Angelica has brought back to me that wonderful and joyous moment. Angelica collecting one penny at a time. Thank you Angelica!

Charity Raising Children Right Now | Angelica Dowiak's StoryTo the Joy of Giving…
To the Joy in Activity…

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Raising Kids Compassionately

UPDATED May 14,2012
(See Update Notes below)

The Merced Sun-Star online news webpage (http://www.mercedsunstar.com/) is featuring Debbie Croft, Columnist. How to Deal with Raising Kids Compassionately

The Merced Sun-Star is out of California. Ms. Croft writes a witty and heartwarming piece that looks at the ‘death-defying exploits’ of a modern mother, and How to Deal with Raising Kids Compassionately. Being a parent, Mom or Dad, can be “bittersweet,’ causing feelings of happiness and sadness at the same time.
Update Note 1: Text clarified

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Read the excerpt below and click the Link to read the full piece.

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How to Deal with Raising Kids Compassionately

“Debbie Croft: Time flies when raising children”

“… How to Cope with Separation Anxiety Over a Large Inanimate Object.”

“…while chauffeuring our son to and from high school …”

“And the trip to San Francisco, where the kids saw the Pacific Ocean for the first time. Our brown lab splashed in the water, and Emily wore her big brother’s baseball cap. Even though they’re 10 years apart, she and Jeremy are still the best of friends …”

“The vehicle had become a second home — on wheels.”

“… Ode to Motherhood. Yes, that perilous feat of laboring for hours …”

“… describe the blessed craziness of being a mom …”

“When my kids were little, time crept. And with each birthday I’d wipe my brow: “Whew! We made it through another year!” Now with our son overseas and our surprise baby girl almost grown, birthdays are bittersweet.”

This is your Link to the original source
Update Note 2: Link corrected

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The successful way to parent kids compassionately is to be yourself, to seek to improve your knowledge, and to seek understanding through your experience and through the experience of other parents. Sometimes all the parenting experts can leave parents feeling incompetent, and insecure. Confidence grows with successful parenting solutions. Humor doesn’t hurt either. Perfection is not the goal; the goal is raising kids to be healthy, happy, and confident themselves.

You can educate yourself about Childhood Development easily through Kindle digital ebooks. Go to “Developmental Stages of Childhood”
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00748X02G

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Parents Dealing with Childrens Problems

Parents Dealing with Children's ProblemsBryan Greeson, a nationally certified school psychologist who serves as the Director of Special Services in York School District One has written a piece in which he warns about Parents Dealing with Childrens Problems. You can locate this piece in the Gaston Gasette (http://www.gastongazette.com/) operating in Gastonia, North Carolina.

I have included an excerpt below and the Link to the original source of the material.
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Parents Dealing with Childrens Problems

“Parents need to be careful about intervening for their children”

“…responsible parents promote the independence of their children.”

“To promote children growing up to become independent young adults means…”

“…adult peer pressure is at play here. You see, it makes it much more difficult for the parent to not intervene in his child’s situations…”

“You may be hindering your child from knowing that he is earning his own accomplishments, as well as learning how to deal with the fact that life doesn’t always dish out everything one wants. A major key to success is learning to deal with failure.”

This is the Link to the Original Source

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If you are a Parent that is contemplating intervening into your children’s problems, then read about of The Developmental Stages of Childhood to help your decide which action steps are appropriate for your children. Go to Amazon for this easy to understand progression through Childhood Development.

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Correcting Childrens Behavior Problems with Character Building

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In the Times-Republican (http://www.timesrepublican.com) out of Marshalltown, Iowa comes a man, Harry Patton, who is willing to take a stand. He has clarified his views on Correcting Childrens Behavior Problems with Character Building. He has posted online a piece about ‘moral guidelines’ for character building.

He makes a very strong point for using ‘moral guidelines’ in the parenting of our children;  Click the Link below…
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Correcting Childrens Behavior Problems with Character Building

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“…with all that has been said so far on early childhood learning ability, nothing has been said of moral guidelines, to develop character to know right from wrong, how to conduct yourself, how to interact with other children.”

“Good behavior can be taught to children. How well I know, as a 5 or 6 year old boy, visiting relatives, I was curious of what was in the kitchen drawers, I found a nickel in one drawer, received a timely lecture regarding the taking of someone else’s …”

Moral and/or ethical guidelines for Childrens Behavior Problems can be a slippery slope. I have several papers written about Childrens Behavior Problems and Discipline.

“My father, a good man lacked discipline in his emotions, having fits of anger now and then, was disruptive to our family. Likewise, children learn proper behavior from those around them. Hopefully…”
“Now we face the fact that there are thousands of homes where the fathers are not there to help and guide their children…”
“…I first would sense the pain and heartache as I looked into their faces and to know their regret…”
“I was there to let them know that there was a better road to follow.”

Click here to visit the original source of this post

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I hardily agree with the stand Harry Patton is taking in his piece on parenting solutions by using ‘moral guidelines’ for parenting and teaching children.

The main problem that I have encountered in my 18 years of working with troubled youth, families, and parents is the defining of ‘moral guidelines.’ Depending on cultural background, nationality, religious and spiritual beliefs, there remains a huge variance in that which is ‘moral.’ Parenting children to avoid the pitfalls of our blended and yet subdivided America can be confusing to say the least, and hazardous at worst.

So, as an ‘American culture,’ how do we avoid, minimize, or eliminate Childrens Behavior Problems?

 Please share your opinion, your ideas, your questions, and ‘Do yo have answers for Childrens Behavior Problems?

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Children with Chronic Stress

Peter Criscione presents a short article on Childhood Development and Children with Chronic Stress in the Brampton Guardian online (http://www.bramptonguardian.com) from Brampton, Ontario. He reports that “A little tension in our lives isn’t all that bad. But…“

This article covers a lecture given in the Brampton area. It discusses the effects of chronic stress on Childhood Development and future success as adults. The experiences that we have as children shape how our brain develops and how we choose our behaviors later in life. Read on…

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Childhood Development and Children with Chronic Stress

Childhood Development and Children with Chronic Stress

“How children cope with stress is key: expert”

“But ‘toxic’ stress can make us physically sick, says a renowned neuroscientist, whose research suggests how we learn to deal with anxiety as children can have a lasting impact on our bodies and brains.“

““Experiences shape the process that determines whether a child’s brain will provide a strong or weak foundation for future learning behaviour and health,” said Dr. Bruce McEwen…”

Understanding the basic principles of Childhood Development is key to understanding how to effectively support healthy Childhood Development. Click this Link to see a condensed version and explanation of Erikson’s Stage of Childhood Development.
“Developmental Stages of Childhood”

“Early childhood experiences, according to McEwen, are key in setting the level of responsiveness of physical stress mechanisms, and the physical and mental ability to manage behaviour.”

“Specifically, children who learn to cope with stress early are more likely to solve problems successfully and…”

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Bruce S. McEwen, Ph.D., the presenter of this lecture talking about Childhood Development, can be located at The Rockefeller University, Science for the benefit of humanity, where he is a professor. Here is a Link to begin your research: Bruce S. McEwen, Ph.D.

As we all know and have experienced, chronic stress can be debilitating. This is an interesting topic, and great food for thought. Just how do parents support healthy Childhood Development and aid Children in learning how to manage stress? There are good points in this article; however, reading the material from Professor McEwen will be even more enlightening.

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