Do you know How to Discipline a Toddler without Hitting?
It can be uncomplicated. I found a short video that will help you walk through a few easy techniques and concepts. These are quick and easy ways to discipline your toddler effectively and effortlessly.
To get to the goal of avoiding spanking, there is a simple course of action. The video has presented quick and easy steps to remember. I have grouped these steps below the Link to the original source for the video Howcast (http://on.aol.com/).
These steps are as simple as steering a toddler away from an unsuitable or dangerous choice and into the right direction by offering another option, such as a colorful or favorite toy.
The resources you will need are:
- Awareness of your surroundings
- Positive attitude
- Words your child understands
- Lot’s of Patience
Watch the video below and then review the steps on this webpage below.
How to Discipline a Toddler without Hitting
“How to Discipline Your Toddler Without Spanking”
Here are those steps I promised…
Understand that kids feel more comfortable and confident when they know your rules and how to follow them. Once your rules are created, such as ‘Write on your easel paper and not on the wall,’ be consistent. This is teaching your toddler exactly how to behave.
Stay alert for opportunities to distract your toddler before they choose to misbehave by calling their name. Now that you have their attention, use it and divert it to some activity that is suitable and perhaps more engaging. Avoid saying ‘no’ by saying ‘We don’t do that.’ Then quickly ask for their help with a game or household chore. This is still a negative statement. You can also say something like, ‘We can fold Daddy’s clean clothes together instead of drawing on the wall,’ or ‘How about playing a game of ‘Shoots and Ladders’ together instead of making a mess on the wall that you and I will have to clean up later.’
PS: Toddler are still at an age at which they like to help.
Don’t respond or react to temper tantrums. This demonstrates and teaches the toddler that their dramatic displays will not give them control over you or the situation. I have a cute video that show a toddler throwing a temper tantrum where he is completely aware that he is putting on an act for his parents.
(PS: It is further down the webpage: Permissive Parenting)
Watch that video at… Article: Permissive Parenting has the Toddler Temper Tantrum Video
Use short timeouts, when the toddler reaches age of 3 years old. A toddler’s attention span is limited at this developmental stage. Before the age of 3 years old, toddlers are not able to make the connections between an unwanted behavior and the consequences of the timeout. Limit timeouts to 3 minutes or less. The length of the timeout can generally to set by age. A 3 years old has a 3 minute timeout; a 4 year old has a 4 minute timeout, etcetera. Please avoid using their bedroom as a place for timeouts; they may begin to connect their room with punishment, and not learn the lesson of avoiding a poor behavior choice.
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Rely on positive reinforcement for a job done well or a proper choice the toddler has made. Examples presented in the video are sharing toys with others or picking up after him or herself. Tell them what a good job they are doing. Hugging is also good. Gentle loving physical contact is a wonderful incentive for appropriate behavior choices the toddler makes.
Make it easy for your toddler or preschooler to choose the suitable behavior. Avoid setting them up to fail; the video’s example is a Mother having taken her son to a nail salon to wait. Toddlers do not wait well. They get bored easily and quickly. Another example is leaving out dangerous items or items that can tempt your toddler to choose an unsuitable behavior or action.
Don’t hit your child, no matter what.
The video presents two reasons for avoiding hitting your children.
First, spanking, or any corporal punishment teaches children fear not correct behavior choices.
Second, it is excessively easy for a parent to lose control while angry and hit too hard, or too much, or use something to hit the child with that may cause a serious injury.
A third reason for avoiding hitting or spanking children is that hitting is violence. Violence teaches nothing but violence, victimization, and that it is a tool to control others. Scary! You do not want to teach these negative concepts. Discipline for Toddlers is not control; Discipline for Toddlers is teaching and training. You are teaching your toddler and preschooler social skills and life skills.
Grow and development is moving your child toward maturity through stages. The goal is personal stability and the independence of adulthood. You child is learning to balance learning social and community skills with their desire for independent though and action. This is the beginnings of a well-balanced sense of self.
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