An additional way to avoid raising children to be angry children is to Teach and Practice Anger Management Methods. The techniques that you use can be useful as a starting point. (If your techniques for dissipating anger do not work, or are non-existent, then discover and practice your own skills in this area. Your best successful parenting solution in you! Parenting by example is your best bet.)
Some illustrations of techniques for dissipating anger that you might already be using and may succeed with youngsters as well are…
1) Deep breathing,
2) Taking at time out, (This is good for you, too.)
3) Taking a hike or a walk (This accomplishes getting some fresh air / oxygen.),
4) Chatting with their parents / close friends / confidants, and
5) Reading, drawing, forming clay items, etc quietly.
Some further ideas to Teach and Practice Anger Management Methods Are …
Play soft mellow music and keep the volume low. If there is currently a great deal of chaos going on in your home, remove it. If there are 12 kids playing in the backyard, they will have to go home. If there are teenagers listening to heavy metal or grunge music, loudly, the volume will have to be lower or the sound removed entirely. You get the idea. Chaos breeds stress and frustration, which in turn can fuel anger that is already brewing. Anger feels powerful. The feeling of being powerful leads to the desire to be angry and hostile as frequently as possible.
Children get pressured, frustrated, and angry, too. Their stressors are different, of course. Keep in mind that their stressors are dependent on their age. Successfully dealing with angry children requires that you match your behavior expectations and your understanding of the abilities of your children to their age. Success in this area is also dependent on the techniques you teach your children being age and developmental stage appropriate.
You bring stress home from work; your youngsters bring home worry from school. Whatever has worked for you to reduce your stress and thereby reduce your frustration and anger will work for your children in a modified form.
Make every effort to avoid raising your voice, while teaching any methods to your children. There will be eye rolling; that is okay. Change is achievable. Opposed to screaming to stop tossing blocks at the dog, you will have to take quietly go over and take the blocks away, explaining why, of course. You get the point; I hope.
Now and in the future, your children will benefit from learning how to self-soothe. Again, if you need some practice in this area, get it. This is a personal skill that benefits everyone throughout life.
Once you have finished with this paper, and you haven’t already read the first paper in this series, Parenting Preparation for Dealing with an Angry Child Behavior Issues, the Introduction (Just Click the Link!) you can find it at… http://parenting101success.com/parenting-preparation-for-dealing-with-an-angry-child-behavior-issues/
Since this is Method #2: Teach and Practice Anger Management Methods, You may want to make sure that you read the second paper and Method #1, Teach and Practice Communication Skills. You can Click the Link or go to… http://parenting101success.com/teach-and-practice-communication-skills/
The next paper in this series is… Method #3: The Night and Sleep.
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